I was always attracted not by some quantifiable, external beauty, but by something deep down, something absolute. Just as some people have a secret love for rainstorms, earthquakes or blackouts, I liked that certain undefinable something directed my way by members of the opposite sex. For want of a better word, call it magnetism. Like it or not, it’s a kind of power that snares people and reels them in
Haruki Murakami, South of the Border, West of the Sun
What is it that makes a person attractive? Is it the way that they look? The way that they dress? The way that they act? Actually, attraction can incorporate all of these factors simultaneously.
An Attractive Woman
I freely admit that I have the biggest girl-crush on Shailene Woodley. I’m almost sure she’s my spirit animal. What I find attractive about Shailene Woodley is both her sense of style, and her personal philosophies on health and fitness. Honestly, she’s just straight-up rad.
I first became acquainted with Shailene Woodley back in 2007 when she starred in the television show, The Secret Life of the American Teenager, on ABC Family. Since then, I’ve seen almost all of her movies, including The Descendants, The Spectacular Now, Divergent and The Fault in Our Stars. I’ve also seen many of the interviews she’s done, and there was one, in particular, that caught my eye. It was an interview she did for Mother Nature News, in which she divulged in her experiences with eating clay (for its detoxifying properties), foraging for her food, bottling her own natural spring water and giving away her house in hopes of living a simpler, more down-to-earth lifestyle. During the interview, she shared her beauty routines and advice, often preferring to remain au naturale in terms of makeup and other cosmetics:
“I realized that, growing up and looking at magazines, I was comparing myself to images like that, and most of it isn’t real. I don’t really wear makeup that much anyway, so part of it is just a selfish, lazy thing. I want to be me.”
I want to be you, too, Shailene.
An Attractive Man
I’m a fan of guys with long hair. And guys with beards. Bonus points go to the guys who have both.
Jordan Feliz is one of my favorite Christian musicians who plays primarily folk rock and soul. Yes, his long, luscious locks, as well as the single most on-point anchor-style beard that ever existed, do make him an attractive man, but more importantly, I think his faith in God is attractive, too. In an interview he did for Rocking God’s House, he describes his journey of faith in being elevated to new heights in the music industry:
“It’s really interesting because, sometimes, you want to know, and it’s really hard. There’s so much wondering in your journey as a human being. You’re like, ‘Am I just saying this to myself? Am I the one speaking this into my life, or is this God?’ Our journey was just a testament to God’s abundance in our lives. It was really amazing to see Him and His hand over us in our journey.”
I know the journey of which he speaks all too well. I understand what it’s like to feel lost in your own journey at times. Unfortunately, there’s no guidebook giving you all of the answers to getting your health back in order or finishing up your degree. You’re constantly questioning if where you’re currently at is where you’re supposed to be, the place where God meant for you to be. What I’ve learned though is that, while being an active participant i your own journey is important, you ultimately have to rely on God’s guiding hand and remain faithful to His plan for your life, whatever that means and however long that takes.
An Attractive Gender Non-Conforming Individual
Bill Kaulitz has always been a very androgynous and free-spirited person, even when he was a kid first starting out his singing career in Germany. I think he and his brother are both physically attractive, and attractive because of their passion and love for music, fashion and creativity. Bill Kaulitz knows who he is, and he’s comfortable with and accepting of who he is, no matter what anyone else says about him.